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All Problems Are Social Problems: Finding Connection in a Smoky World
“We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny.”— Martin Luther King Jr. The air is a bit...
Oct 16 min read


Respect the Rats: The One Word Secret of Helping People Change Without Giving Advice
“When people experience autonomy, they feel more alive, more creative, and more fulfilled.” — Edward Deci & Richard Ryan,...
Sep 35 min read


A Little Out of This World Movie about a Big Coming Home... To Yourself
Back home, I didn’t fit in. I thought Earth was the problem, but what if it’s me? – Elio Well, I like you and you seem fine to me. –...
Jul 218 min read


What Do You Really Need? And How to Be Happy, Stop Wrecking Your Relationships, and Causing General Chaos
“Everything We Do Is an Attempt to Meet a Need.” Marshall Rosenberg I’m going to share a story. Like the previous blog, this isn’t the...
Jul 114 min read


The Psychology of Politeness and Boo on Bad Manners
Politeness is to human nature what warmth is to wax - Arthur Schopenhauer, German philosopher This isn’t exactly the story that...
Jul 87 min read


Big, “Bad” Emotions! No More "Sucking It Up, Buttercup": A Better Way - Insights from a Kid’s Story, Rumi, and Internal Family Systems
“We often find that the harder we try to get rid of emotions and thoughts, the stronger they become….” ― Richard C. Schwartz, No Bad...
Jun 177 min read


The Power of Sitting on the Porch…Especially for Thinking-Too-Much People
“The front porch is a place where time slows down, the breeze always seems cooler, and the stories never really end.” —Rick Bragg,...
Jun 24 min read


Porch Storms and Birthday Calls: A Lenten Reflection on a Rich Life and a Real Father
“Daddy," I whispered, feeling my own breath hitch in my throat. "I love you." Just when I was sure he was asleep, the one corner of his...
Apr 104 min read


It's Never Too Late: Simple Ways for Making Meaning, Healing, and Changing the World
What do most people say on their deathbed? They don't say, "I wish I'd made more money." What they say is, I wish I'd spent more time...
Feb 287 min read


How Can We Wisely Build Strong Houses To Withstand...Whatever?
"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock." ...
Feb 114 min read


What Can We Learn About How to Live the Good Life From A Practitioner of Good Works?
"America did not invent human rights. In a very real sense . . . human rights invented America." 38th president of the United States,...
Jan 94 min read


Give Thanks Today - Keep Doing It for 365 More Days; It Will Change Your Life
“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” Meister Eckhart Dr. Christopher Peterson tells...
Nov 28, 20245 min read


Tennessee Wisdom: Beware of Snootiness
Contempt is the sulfuric acid of love . Dr. John Gottman, relationship expert “How did this happen? I just don’t understand.” That’s...
Nov 15, 20248 min read


Self-Help For Society: We Must Not Be Enemies
"If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of...
Nov 7, 20249 min read


How the Theory of Buckets and Dippers (and Lids) Works: 3 Rules for Happiness and a Test of Donald O. Clifton's Ideas
Relationships help us to define who we are and what we can become. Most of us can trace our successes to pivotal relationships. Dr....
Oct 19, 20247 min read


Mysterious Stuff: Theology of Health, Strange Stories, Unusual Factors, Cancer as a Turning Point and Living Your Values
The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious . It is the source of all true art and all science. He to whom this emotion...
Sep 30, 20248 min read


Kindness, Cookies, and Milk... and All We Ever Really Need to Know
And it is still true, no matter how old you are -- when you go out into the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together. Robert...
Sep 27, 20249 min read


Quick Now: What Are Your Pillars For Living the Good Life?
It is easier to produce ten volumes of philosophical writings than to put one principle into practice. Leo Tolstoy This past week I...
Aug 18, 20247 min read


Revenge OR Turn the Other Cheek - What Does That Mean? Maybe Not What We Think
You have heard that it was said, “An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.” Do not resist an evildoer. But if anyone strikes on on the...
Aug 7, 20247 min read


"Born Bad": Can We Adopt A More Helpful, Accurate, and Life-Giving Story?
"I think there's a natural goodness built into human beings. You know when you've stepped across the line into evil, and it's your life's...
Jul 22, 20247 min read
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