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For Those Who See Suffering Up Close and Try Desperately Not to Doubt...Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People? And for Those Who See Good Things Happening to Good People - Is There Any Logic?
“God is love, and those who abide in love abide in God, and God abides in them.”— 1 John 4:16 “For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face.”— 1 Corinthians 13:12 (KJV) There are questions that feel more like earthquakes than inquiries. They shake the ground under our tidy theologies and philosophies about living a good life and leave us standing in dust. Yesterday a woman asked me one of those questions. I saw her at church. She had been quiet. I asked her
Feb 97 min read


Song Sung Blue, Everybody Knows One: Practicing Distress Tolerance in Adversity
“Yes, there is a human nature that transcends all culture… and it is precisely our power to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances.” —Viktor Frankl I was telling some of my friends who are in their eighties and nineties about the idea that this year may be historic for breakthroughs in health and longevity. On the near horizon we could be living decades longer. They shook their heads, “No thanks". They are not very interested in living longer. They are feeli
Jan 168 min read


What, Me Happy? Today?
"No mud, no lotus." Popular Buddhist saying Why am I happy today? There's the awful news out of Minnesota…I’ve gotten accounts from friends sending me info from both sides of our polarized society. But then I did read an account which seemed somewhat objective and even-handed until more is known. No, my joy is not linked to any of that for sure! I did move my body. That always helps my mood. Did yoga with John in the a.m. and then SAIL (Stay Active and Independent for Li
Jan 87 min read


Suffering: A Valuable Ingredient for the Good Life?
“Suddenly some force struck him in the chest and side, making it still harder to breathe, and he fell through the hole and there at the...
Jun 12, 20257 min read


What "Thunderbolts" Teaches Us About Trauma, Depression, and the Healing Power of Connection and Common Humanity
Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky...
May 5, 20259 min read


Two Simple Ways to Alleviate Suffering
Holding hands is a promise to one another that, for just a moment, the two of you don't have to face the world alone. (Quote shared on...
Oct 30, 20248 min read


Stand Down
Patriotism is not short, frenzied outbursts of emotion, but the tranquil and steady dedication of a lifetime. Adlai Stevenson II, Fifth...
May 23, 20243 min read


"Life's Too Good Not to Be Happy": Voices of Resilience (and Hope)
"You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice." Bob Marley, singer Last week we were visiting with some...
Apr 30, 20245 min read


The Amen Effect And Beyond
There is definitely openness to others' suffering that is dealt not with distress but with compassion. Matthieu Ricard A couple of months...
Mar 19, 20246 min read


Breaking Bad
"The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones." Rick Hanson, Ph.D., neuropsychologist, author This blog...
Feb 15, 20246 min read


Don't Despair - We Can Resist Evil, Peace is Possible
The line of good and evil is down the middle of every person's heart. Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, imprisoned Russian writer John and I plan...
Oct 10, 20233 min read
Opening To Our Darkness
Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own...
Apr 5, 20233 min read
Decreasing Our Suffering by Savoring Our Common Humanity
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.” M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled My husband, John, and I are...
Mar 29, 20224 min read
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