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On Marriage...Fifty-Two Years of Being in the Dojo Together; One Thing I Learned that Rattled My Head - Made Me a Little More Humble, a Bit Wiser, Kinder, Tougher, and More Relationship Savvy

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. Anaïs Nin I wrote most of this blog in the past, but wanted to re-visit it because first, John and I have just celebrated an anniversary, fifty two years of marriage. It’s a big marker for us. We lived through several renditions of ourselves along side of each other. Second, because relationships, both struggles and successes are the basis of most all our human problems as well as the primary route to flourishing. Ver

Nov 219 min read

Gloria Steinem or Whoever was Wrong: Two Lessons From 50 Years of Marriage

“Look, you want to know what marriage is really like? Fine. You wake up, she's there. You come back from work, she's there. You fall...

Dec 20, 20234 min read

Marital Hatred: How Forgiveness Fits In

Life is an adventure in forgiveness. American author, Norman Cousins I can't remember what started the conversation as John and I were...

Sep 22, 20236 min read

Naikan: Look Inside, A Daring Way To Find Gratitude and The Good Life

The idea is that if you practice the Naikan part of Constructive Living, life becomes a series of small miracles, and you may start to...

Sep 8, 20235 min read

For All Who Have Made Mistakes, Been Hurt, Neglected, Or Unloved

“A secure attachment is the ability to bond; to develop a secure and safe base...” ― Asa Don Brown, The Effects of Childhood Trauma on...

Jun 28, 20226 min read

Stop Doing Nasty Tangos With Your Partner

"I’ll Always Have Your Back" - A super good way to express your love Our children have asked my husband and me what we are most proud of....

Mar 29, 20225 min read